Thursday, January 31, 2008

Birthday Update

Lucy's birthday has gotten off to a great start...
She received her first (and beautiful) letter ever from Grandma and Papa, her first e-card from friends Ryan and Paige (and their sweet Mommy),and an email from pals Marcus and Juliana (and their thoughtful Mommy). I'm overwhelmed at how supportive everyone has been.
I want to write it all down so Lucy can see how much she was missed on this special day.

And thanks to all for the wonderful comments! I will share them all with our little girl when she finally comes home.

Some things a Mom does on her daughter's first birthday when she's a world away...
•send a chain email to 20 unsuspecting victims, all in the name of "good luck"
•eat cookies and cream ice cream directly from the carton

stay tuned...

Birthday Update

Lucy's birthday has gotten off to a great start...
She received her first (and beautiful) letter ever from Grandma and Papa, her first e-card from friends Ryan and Paige (and their sweet Mommy),and an email from pals Marcus and Juliana (and their thoughtful Mommy). I'm overwhelmed at how supportive everyone has been.
I want to write it all down so Lucy can see how much she was missed on this special day.

And thanks to all for the wonderful comments! I will share them all with our little girl when she finally comes home.

Some things a Mom does on her daughter's first birthday when she's a world away...
•send a chain email to 20 unsuspecting victims, all in the name of "good luck"
•eat cookies and cream ice cream directly from the carton

stay tuned...

Birthday Update

Lucy's birthday has gotten off to a great start...
She received her first (and beautiful) letter ever from Grandma and Papa, her first e-card from friends Ryan and Paige (and their sweet Mommy),and an email from pals Marcus and Juliana (and their thoughtful Mommy). I'm overwhelmed at how supportive everyone has been.
I want to write it all down so Lucy can see how much she was missed on this special day.

And thanks to all for the wonderful comments! I will share them all with our little girl when she finally comes home.

Some things a Mom does on her daughter's first birthday when she's a world away...
?send a chain email to 20 unsuspecting victims, all in the name of "good luck"
?eat cookies and cream ice cream directly from the carton

stay tuned...

Happy Birthday, Baby Girl!

While we're a day away here in the US, it's 7 a.m. tomorrow in Taiwan and Lucy is probably waking up to her very first birthday. I hope they're making a fuss over her. This morning, photos dated January 22 arrived in my email inbox. Look at her! I find myself studying her face and trying to read what she's feeling. It's so funny how her little nose looks just like her big brothers'.





Stay tuned tomorrow... I'll share photos of our guest of honor-less birthday celebration and a special post for our daughter.

Happy Birthday, Baby Girl!

While we're a day away here in the US, it's 7 a.m. tomorrow in Taiwan and Lucy is probably waking up to her very first birthday. I hope they're making a fuss over her. This morning, photos dated January 22 arrived in my email inbox. Look at her! I find myself studying her face and trying to read what she's feeling. It's so funny how her little nose looks just like her big brothers'.





Stay tuned tomorrow... I'll share photos of our guest of honor-less birthday celebration and a special post for our daughter.

Happy Birthday, Baby Girl!

While we're a day away here in the US, it's 7 a.m. tomorrow in Taiwan and Lucy is probably waking up to her very first birthday. I hope they're making a fuss over her. This morning, photos dated January 22 arrived in my email inbox. Look at her! I find myself studying her face and trying to read what she's feeling. It's so funny how her little nose looks just like her big brothers'.





Stay tuned tomorrow... I'll share photos of our guest of honor-less birthday celebration and a special post for our daughter.

Sunday, January 27, 2008

Cleanup in Aisle Six!

On a cold, damp Southern California night, I was zipping through the grocery story for two reasons. One, to get home in time to do stories and bed with the kids. The other, so I wouldn't be spotted in my Sunday too-lazy-to-make-myself-presentable mode.

Milk... check.
Yogurt...check.
Cereal...check, check.

Ingredients for Lucy's first birthday cupcakes...

(insert sound effect for being punched in the stomach here)

We're days away from our little girl's first birthday and I'm already weeping in grocery store aisles? Oh man, it's going to be one long week! It would be a little bit easier to deal with if we had any idea of when we'd be traveling. (do you hear me world?)

Here's a photo of the culprits:
And don't think for a second, maker of the "Disney Princess Sprinkles" that you've pulled one over on me. I am almost positive that not only are there no actual princesses in the magic decorative topping, but I bet they weren't even made by genuine princesses. You may have gotten me today but don't get too cocky -- I'm on to you.

Cleanup in Aisle Six!

On a cold, damp Southern California night, I was zipping through the grocery story for two reasons. One, to get home in time to do stories and bed with the kids. The other, so I wouldn't be spotted in my Sunday too-lazy-to-make-myself-presentable mode.

Milk... check.
Yogurt...check.
Cereal...check, check.

Ingredients for Lucy's first birthday cupcakes...

(insert sound effect for being punched in the stomach here)

We're days away from our little girl's first birthday and I'm already weeping in grocery store aisles? Oh man, it's going to be one long week! It would be a little bit easier to deal with if we had any idea of when we'd be traveling. (do you hear me world?)

Here's a photo of the culprits:
And don't think for a second, maker of the "Disney Princess Sprinkles" that you've pulled one over on me. I am almost positive that not only are there no actual princesses in the magic decorative topping, but I bet they weren't even made by genuine princesses. You may have gotten me today but don't get too cocky -- I'm on to you.

Cleanup in Aisle Six!

On a cold, damp Southern California night, I was zipping through the grocery story for two reasons. One, to get home in time to do stories and bed with the kids. The other, so I wouldn't be spotted in my Sunday too-lazy-to-make-myself-presentable mode.

Milk... check.
Yogurt...check.
Cereal...check, check.

Ingredients for Lucy's first birthday cupcakes...

(insert sound effect for being punched in the stomach here)

We're days away from our little girl's first birthday and I'm already weeping in grocery store aisles? Oh man, it's going to be one long week! It would be a little bit easier to deal with if we had any idea of when we'd be traveling. (do you hear me world?)

Here's a photo of the culprits:
And don't think for a second, maker of the "Disney Princess Sprinkles" that you've pulled one over on me. I am almost positive that not only are there no actual princesses in the magic decorative topping, but I bet they weren't even made by genuine princesses. You may have gotten me today but don't get too cocky -- I'm on to you.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

What Do You Think?

Three days ago, I wrote about the Rainbow Connection in our adoption. Today, this was the view from the window just outside my office.

Is this a sign? Will our wait soon come to an end? Or am I just a Mama looking for something to hang on to?

PS While I realized when I posted about the first rainbow that it was the 4 mos mark of when we received our referral, it didn't occur to me until well after I posted this that the rainbow three days later was actually on the 4 mos mark of when we accepted the referral. (remember, we thought about it for three days?)

What Do You Think?

Three days ago, I wrote about the Rainbow Connection in our adoption. Today, this was the view from the window just outside my office.

Is this a sign? Will our wait soon come to an end? Or am I just a Mama looking for something to hang on to?

PS While I realized when I posted about the first rainbow that it was the 4 mos mark of when we received our referral, it didn't occur to me until well after I posted this that the rainbow three days later was actually on the 4 mos mark of when we accepted the referral. (remember, we thought about it for three days?)

What Do You Think?

Three days ago, I wrote about the Rainbow Connection in our adoption. Today, this was the view from the window just outside my office.

Is this a sign? Will our wait soon come to an end? Or am I just a Mama looking for something to hang on to?

PS While I realized when I posted about the first rainbow that it was the 4 mos mark of when we received our referral, it didn't occur to me until well after I posted this that the rainbow three days later was actually on the 4 mos mark of when we accepted the referral. (remember, we thought about it for three days?)

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Children Who Experience Loss

The parallels between the death of a parent and adoption.

I've done an incredible amount of research in the past months about childhood loss, grief and healing. I'm sure we'll have challenges ahead with Lucy that we'll have to navigate as we go but we are trying to be as prepared as we can.

I wrote an article for Mom•Logic today about helping children who are grieving the loss of a parent. I have a personal interest in the story not only because I experienced that loss but because I want to do the best I can in explaining to Lucy the circumstances of her adoption.

What Will Her Mommy Say?
How do you tell a child Daddy's never coming home?

With the sudden passing of actor Heath Ledger, Moms everywhere can empathize with Michelle Williams, mother of his now fatherless 2-year-old daughter, Matilda. What kind of conversations is she going to have to have through the years? Matilda is too young to understand now, but soon she'll wonder—maybe even hear kids at school or relatives talking—and her mother is going to have to give her something.

According to Children's Grief Education Association, approximately 4.8 million U.S. children are grieving the loss of a parent. Mom•Logic friend and family counselor Rosanne Tobey LPC says the best way to inform a child of a sudden loss is to keep it simple and allow the child to express themselves and to ask questions.
• Don't provide too many details, unless asked. Talk to the child based on the developmental level they're at. With small kids, keep it simple, but be honest—don't tell them they "went to sleep" or "were sick" because children will take it literally and have a fear of being sick or sleeping. For the whole article, click here

Children Who Experience Loss

The parallels between the death of a parent and adoption.

I've done an incredible amount of research in the past months about childhood loss, grief and healing. I'm sure we'll have challenges ahead with Lucy that we'll have to navigate as we go but we are trying to be as prepared as we can.

I wrote an article for Mom•Logic today about helping children who are grieving the loss of a parent. I have a personal interest in the story not only because I experienced that loss but because I want to do the best I can in explaining to Lucy the circumstances of her adoption.

What Will Her Mommy Say?
How do you tell a child Daddy's never coming home?

With the sudden passing of actor Heath Ledger, Moms everywhere can empathize with Michelle Williams, mother of his now fatherless 2-year-old daughter, Matilda. What kind of conversations is she going to have to have through the years? Matilda is too young to understand now, but soon she'll wonder—maybe even hear kids at school or relatives talking—and her mother is going to have to give her something.

According to Children's Grief Education Association, approximately 4.8 million U.S. children are grieving the loss of a parent. Mom•Logic friend and family counselor Rosanne Tobey LPC says the best way to inform a child of a sudden loss is to keep it simple and allow the child to express themselves and to ask questions.
• Don't provide too many details, unless asked. Talk to the child based on the developmental level they're at. With small kids, keep it simple, but be honest—don't tell them they "went to sleep" or "were sick" because children will take it literally and have a fear of being sick or sleeping. For the whole article, click here

Children Who Experience Loss

The parallels between the death of a parent and adoption.

I've done an incredible amount of research in the past months about childhood loss, grief and healing. I'm sure we'll have challenges ahead with Lucy that we'll have to navigate as we go but we are trying to be as prepared as we can.

I wrote an article for Mom?Logic today about helping children who are grieving the loss of a parent. I have a personal interest in the story not only because I experienced that loss but because I want to do the best I can in explaining to Lucy the circumstances of her adoption.

What Will Her Mommy Say?
How do you tell a child Daddy's never coming home?

With the sudden passing of actor Heath Ledger, Moms everywhere can empathize with Michelle Williams, mother of his now fatherless 2-year-old daughter, Matilda. What kind of conversations is she going to have to have through the years? Matilda is too young to understand now, but soon she'll wonder?maybe even hear kids at school or relatives talking?and her mother is going to have to give her something.

According to Children's Grief Education Association, approximately 4.8 million U.S. children are grieving the loss of a parent. Mom?Logic friend and family counselor Rosanne Tobey LPC says the best way to inform a child of a sudden loss is to keep it simple and allow the child to express themselves and to ask questions.
? Don't provide too many details, unless asked. Talk to the child based on the developmental level they're at. With small kids, keep it simple, but be honest?don't tell them they "went to sleep" or "were sick" because children will take it literally and have a fear of being sick or sleeping. For the whole article, click here

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

This Just In...

Two Moms Take Taiwan by Storm, Pick Up Babies

Two more babies are headed home! Samantha and Kimi will soon be coming to America after being united with their families at SLC Tuesday. This just one day after Joshua was picked up by his parents.

Samanta and Kimi's mamas (Lori and Megan) were so sweet to look in on Lucy. In fact, Megan brought Lucy her birthday gifts a bit early. Here's what they said about our little lady.

Lori: I saw Lucy quite a bit. She was being carried most of the time. She was very friendly and I got to touch her hand and talk to her. I was holding Samantha and I so wanted to get a photo but there was no way. Anyway, Jackie she looked really good and happy. I was told she is very quick and has managed to climb into the walker on her own.

Megan: I've waited all evening to email you. I delivered your package to Lucy. I asked to see her and she was being held by one of the nannies. She was sitting on the ground and loving being cuddled. I want to tell you she has the sweetest demeanor, she was so pleasant and smiling at us even though she did not know us. She is soooooo much cuter in person (I know that doen't help you with the wait either). Kimi kissed her it was really cute, I told them they will be friends later. She is on the small side - I guess they all are. She was just so happy, and wearing completely clean clothes, she has dimples that are really cute. I told Jessica you were sad that the papers did not make it to the court until recently. She said she would work on updates soon.

Thank you Lori and Megan! Congratulations to all the families. (Teresa, YOU are next!)

This Just In...

Two Moms Take Taiwan by Storm, Pick Up Babies

Two more babies are headed home! Samantha and Kimi will soon be coming to America after being united with their families at SLC Tuesday. This just one day after Joshua was picked up by his parents.

Samanta and Kimi's mamas (Lori and Megan) were so sweet to look in on Lucy. In fact, Megan brought Lucy her birthday gifts a bit early. Here's what they said about our little lady.

Lori: I saw Lucy quite a bit. She was being carried most of the time. She was very friendly and I got to touch her hand and talk to her. I was holding Samantha and I so wanted to get a photo but there was no way. Anyway, Jackie she looked really good and happy. I was told she is very quick and has managed to climb into the walker on her own.

Megan: I've waited all evening to email you. I delivered your package to Lucy. I asked to see her and she was being held by one of the nannies. She was sitting on the ground and loving being cuddled. I want to tell you she has the sweetest demeanor, she was so pleasant and smiling at us even though she did not know us. She is soooooo much cuter in person (I know that doen't help you with the wait either). Kimi kissed her it was really cute, I told them they will be friends later. She is on the small side - I guess they all are. She was just so happy, and wearing completely clean clothes, she has dimples that are really cute. I told Jessica you were sad that the papers did not make it to the court until recently. She said she would work on updates soon.

Thank you Lori and Megan! Congratulations to all the families. (Teresa, YOU are next!)

This Just In...

Two Moms Take Taiwan by Storm, Pick Up Babies

Two more babies are headed home! Samantha and Kimi will soon be coming to America after being united with their families at SLC Tuesday. This just one day after Joshua was picked up by his parents.

Samanta and Kimi's mamas (Lori and Megan) were so sweet to look in on Lucy. In fact, Megan brought Lucy her birthday gifts a bit early. Here's what they said about our little lady.

Lori: I saw Lucy quite a bit. She was being carried most of the time. She was very friendly and I got to touch her hand and talk to her. I was holding Samantha and I so wanted to get a photo but there was no way. Anyway, Jackie she looked really good and happy. I was told she is very quick and has managed to climb into the walker on her own.

Megan: I've waited all evening to email you. I delivered your package to Lucy. I asked to see her and she was being held by one of the nannies. She was sitting on the ground and loving being cuddled. I want to tell you she has the sweetest demeanor, she was so pleasant and smiling at us even though she did not know us. She is soooooo much cuter in person (I know that doen't help you with the wait either). Kimi kissed her it was really cute, I told them they will be friends later. She is on the small side - I guess they all are. She was just so happy, and wearing completely clean clothes, she has dimples that are really cute. I told Jessica you were sad that the papers did not make it to the court until recently. She said she would work on updates soon.

Thank you Lori and Megan! Congratulations to all the families. (Teresa, YOU are next!)

Monday, January 21, 2008

The Rainbow Connection

Four months ago today, we got the call that our changed our family of four forever. There was a little girl halfway across the world who was the missing piece to our family puzzle. That weekend, as you might remember, we talked and consulted and did a lot of soul searching to be sure this was 100% the right thing for us. Although we knew in our hearts she was our daughter, we wanted to go in with our eyes wide open.

That weekend was filled with signs that the tiny 7 1/2 month old baby was, in fact, our Lucy. But for some reason, one sign that stuck out was the big, bold rainbow that shot across the sky while we talked it over. I'll never forget turning to Jeff and saying "That's our little girl, we just have to say yes." Fortunately, he was thinking the very same thing.

Soon after that, we were told that the Rainbow Connection is a song that's played frequently in the nursery where Lucy lies her little head. We sing it here with the boys and talk about what life will be like when we finally bring her home.

Today, on the four-month mark of that life altering day, this is what the view was from our kitchen window.


Hold tight, little girl. We'll be there soon.

The Rainbow Connection

Four months ago today, we got the call that our changed our family of four forever. There was a little girl halfway across the world who was the missing piece to our family puzzle. That weekend, as you might remember, we talked and consulted and did a lot of soul searching to be sure this was 100% the right thing for us. Although we knew in our hearts she was our daughter, we wanted to go in with our eyes wide open.

That weekend was filled with signs that the tiny 7 1/2 month old baby was, in fact, our Lucy. But for some reason, one sign that stuck out was the big, bold rainbow that shot across the sky while we talked it over. I'll never forget turning to Jeff and saying "That's our little girl, we just have to say yes." Fortunately, he was thinking the very same thing.

Soon after that, we were told that the Rainbow Connection is a song that's played frequently in the nursery where Lucy lies her little head. We sing it here with the boys and talk about what life will be like when we finally bring her home.

Today, on the four-month mark of that life altering day, this is what the view was from our kitchen window.


Hold tight, little girl. We'll be there soon.

The Rainbow Connection

Four months ago today, we got the call that our changed our family of four forever. There was a little girl halfway across the world who was the missing piece to our family puzzle. That weekend, as you might remember, we talked and consulted and did a lot of soul searching to be sure this was 100% the right thing for us. Although we knew in our hearts she was our daughter, we wanted to go in with our eyes wide open.

That weekend was filled with signs that the tiny 7 1/2 month old baby was, in fact, our Lucy. But for some reason, one sign that stuck out was the big, bold rainbow that shot across the sky while we talked it over. I'll never forget turning to Jeff and saying "That's our little girl, we just have to say yes." Fortunately, he was thinking the very same thing.

Soon after that, we were told that the Rainbow Connection is a song that's played frequently in the nursery where Lucy lies her little head. We sing it here with the boys and talk about what life will be like when we finally bring her home.

Today, on the four-month mark of that life altering day, this is what the view was from our kitchen window.


Hold tight, little girl. We'll be there soon.

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Will Blog for Food

As you may have noticed, Taiwan Lucy's gone commercial with a bit of advertising. It's been something I've mulled over for the past couple of months and finally stopped fighting it. Hey, adoption and parenting cost big bucks, people! And when Lucy gets home, shoes and accessories and ballet and/or football (you never know) get expensive -- and mama needs to help pay for that! So instead of sitting with a sign in a highly foot-trafficked area or emailing friends and family for a little cash (which you should feel free to send, of course)... consider this a very pretty billboard.

Don't judge. Just click on the ads.

Will Blog for Food

As you may have noticed, Taiwan Lucy's gone commercial with a bit of advertising. It's been something I've mulled over for the past couple of months and finally stopped fighting it. Hey, adoption and parenting cost big bucks, people! And when Lucy gets home, shoes and accessories and ballet and/or football (you never know) get expensive -- and mama needs to help pay for that! So instead of sitting with a sign in a highly foot-trafficked area or emailing friends and family for a little cash (which you should feel free to send, of course)... consider this a very pretty billboard.

Don't judge. Just click on the ads.

Will Blog for Food

As you may have noticed, Taiwan Lucy's gone commercial with a bit of advertising. It's been something I've mulled over for the past couple of months and finally stopped fighting it. Hey, adoption and parenting cost big bucks, people! And when Lucy gets home, shoes and accessories and ballet and/or football (you never know) get expensive -- and mama needs to help pay for that! So instead of sitting with a sign in a highly foot-trafficked area or emailing friends and family for a little cash (which you should feel free to send, of course)... consider this a very pretty billboard.

Don't judge. Just click on the ads.

Thursday, January 17, 2008

What's Your Adoption Experience?

Recently, I've begun to write more articles on adoption: the process, challenges, and triumphs. Do you have thoughts on the subject you'd love to share? I want to hear from you! Join my Adopt Experience group and tell me all about it. *All comments will be kept private.


Click to join AdoptExperience

What's Your Adoption Experience?

Recently, I've begun to write more articles on adoption: the process, challenges, and triumphs. Do you have thoughts on the subject you'd love to share? I want to hear from you! Join my Adopt Experience group and tell me all about it. *All comments will be kept private.


Click to join AdoptExperience

What's Your Adoption Experience?

Recently, I've begun to write more articles on adoption: the process, challenges, and triumphs. Do you have thoughts on the subject you'd love to share? I want to hear from you! Join my Adopt Experience group and tell me all about it. *All comments will be kept private.


Click to join AdoptExperience

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

I Will Now Resort to Superstition

Growing up in Boston, it's hard to not become superstitious. Back there, people actually believe that if you wear the right shirt, hat, or unmentionable after your team's win... they'll win again. How do you think the Patriots have won so many games in a row and the Red Sox won the World Series?

If it works in sports, it must work in adoption, right?

Right?

Well, one Mom recently published a post spelling out the court process for Taiwan adoption. Hours later... she had a final decree. Could it be that we have different judges? Probably. But I choose to think if I post the process, we too will be getting good news SOON. (stop laughing people, it could happen!)

Here's the court process in a not-so-small nutshell.

1. District Court Process-a. The family court office reviews the case/petition and a Judge is assigned to the case. b. Judge reviews and considers the case and schedules a "hearing". Hearings are handled differently depending on the birth family's situation, the judge's schedule, persons representing the birth family and those representing the adoptive family. The time involved in getting a hearing scheduled depends on the judge's calendar/schedule and that of everyone else required to attend. Hearings can result in--The immediate decision to finalize the adoption (though this is rarely the case) or - Result in the judge's request for more information (in one case we saw the judge request additional counseling for the birthmother and he scheduled a follow-up hearing. A(gain, this is rare).

**note - we have not gotten word that we've even accomplished this so far.


Most often, the hearing just provides a judge with more information about the case and allows him/her to rule on the adoption with confidence. Most often, the judge's decision (final ruling) happens weeks or even as long as months after the hearing. The responsibility of the District Court is to make sure that every issue related to the best interest of the child has been considered. Though lengthy and frustrating at times, the District Court process protects the child, the birth parent, the organization caring for the child, AND in the end protects us as adoptive parents. When the District Court decisions have been made, adoptive families can be confident that the process was handled with consideration and in the best interest ofthe child. 2-4 MONTHS

2. Part I of Final Decree(first decree). Once the District Court hearing has been completed and the judge has had time to make a decision to finalize the adoption, he/she issues the first part of the Final Decree. This is a short statement signed by the judge that is forwarded to the parties involved (social services organization on behalf of the adoptive family and the birth family) notifying everyone of his/her decision to finalize the adoption. This first part of the Final Decree must go to each party and there is a waiting period of 10 days before any more can happen to ensure that everyone has been notified of the judge's decision. 2-4 WEEKS.

3. Part II of Final Decree. Once the 10 day waiting period is up (and the court staff finds time!), the second part of the Final Decree is forwarded to all parties. When the second part of the decree is received by your child's social service organization, the court process is DONE!

4. Household registration change and immigration requirements. Before adoptive family travels, a lot must be accomplished by the child's social service organization. All court documents and background info on the child must be officially translated to English and submitted with certain paperwork to AIT. Also, the child must have his/her Visa medical exam which is forwarded directly (unopened) to AIT's immigrant visa office. At some point the child's guardian must file for a household registration change. The household registration is a file located at local government offices in Taiwan that contains certificates and information about each person in Taiwan. Your child's household registration is attached to his/her guardian's file until the adoption has been finalized by the Taiwan courts. Once the child has been legally adopted in Taiwan, the guardian files with the government office to remove the file from theirs and create a new file showing that the adoptive parent(s) are the new legal guardians'.The household registration change takes a day or two or a week depending on the placing organization and the local government office. 2-4 WEEKS.

5. New family receives a travel date. Each organization in Taiwan is different in when and how they schedule a travel date. Some wait until all of the above paperwork is filed and then give the family notice to travel quickly. Some schedule the travel in advance, while they work at preparing the above documents, giving a couple of weeks notice before travel.

I Will Now Resort to Superstition

Growing up in Boston, it's hard to not become superstitious. Back there, people actually believe that if you wear the right shirt, hat, or unmentionable after your team's win... they'll win again. How do you think the Patriots have won so many games in a row and the Red Sox won the World Series?

If it works in sports, it must work in adoption, right?

Right?

Well, one Mom recently published a post spelling out the court process for Taiwan adoption. Hours later... she had a final decree. Could it be that we have different judges? Probably. But I choose to think if I post the process, we too will be getting good news SOON. (stop laughing people, it could happen!)

Here's the court process in a not-so-small nutshell.

1. District Court Process-a. The family court office reviews the case/petition and a Judge is assigned to the case. b. Judge reviews and considers the case and schedules a "hearing". Hearings are handled differently depending on the birth family's situation, the judge's schedule, persons representing the birth family and those representing the adoptive family. The time involved in getting a hearing scheduled depends on the judge's calendar/schedule and that of everyone else required to attend. Hearings can result in--The immediate decision to finalize the adoption (though this is rarely the case) or - Result in the judge's request for more information (in one case we saw the judge request additional counseling for the birthmother and he scheduled a follow-up hearing. A(gain, this is rare).

**note - we have not gotten word that we've even accomplished this so far.


Most often, the hearing just provides a judge with more information about the case and allows him/her to rule on the adoption with confidence. Most often, the judge's decision (final ruling) happens weeks or even as long as months after the hearing. The responsibility of the District Court is to make sure that every issue related to the best interest of the child has been considered. Though lengthy and frustrating at times, the District Court process protects the child, the birth parent, the organization caring for the child, AND in the end protects us as adoptive parents. When the District Court decisions have been made, adoptive families can be confident that the process was handled with consideration and in the best interest ofthe child. 2-4 MONTHS

2. Part I of Final Decree(first decree). Once the District Court hearing has been completed and the judge has had time to make a decision to finalize the adoption, he/she issues the first part of the Final Decree. This is a short statement signed by the judge that is forwarded to the parties involved (social services organization on behalf of the adoptive family and the birth family) notifying everyone of his/her decision to finalize the adoption. This first part of the Final Decree must go to each party and there is a waiting period of 10 days before any more can happen to ensure that everyone has been notified of the judge's decision. 2-4 WEEKS.

3. Part II of Final Decree. Once the 10 day waiting period is up (and the court staff finds time!), the second part of the Final Decree is forwarded to all parties. When the second part of the decree is received by your child's social service organization, the court process is DONE!

4. Household registration change and immigration requirements. Before adoptive family travels, a lot must be accomplished by the child's social service organization. All court documents and background info on the child must be officially translated to English and submitted with certain paperwork to AIT. Also, the child must have his/her Visa medical exam which is forwarded directly (unopened) to AIT's immigrant visa office. At some point the child's guardian must file for a household registration change. The household registration is a file located at local government offices in Taiwan that contains certificates and information about each person in Taiwan. Your child's household registration is attached to his/her guardian's file until the adoption has been finalized by the Taiwan courts. Once the child has been legally adopted in Taiwan, the guardian files with the government office to remove the file from theirs and create a new file showing that the adoptive parent(s) are the new legal guardians'.The household registration change takes a day or two or a week depending on the placing organization and the local government office. 2-4 WEEKS.

5. New family receives a travel date. Each organization in Taiwan is different in when and how they schedule a travel date. Some wait until all of the above paperwork is filed and then give the family notice to travel quickly. Some schedule the travel in advance, while they work at preparing the above documents, giving a couple of weeks notice before travel.

I Will Now Resort to Superstition

Growing up in Boston, it's hard to not become superstitious. Back there, people actually believe that if you wear the right shirt, hat, or unmentionable after your team's win... they'll win again. How do you think the Patriots have won so many games in a row and the Red Sox won the World Series?

If it works in sports, it must work in adoption, right?

Right?

Well, one Mom recently published a post spelling out the court process for Taiwan adoption. Hours later... she had a final decree. Could it be that we have different judges? Probably. But I choose to think if I post the process, we too will be getting good news SOON. (stop laughing people, it could happen!)

Here's the court process in a not-so-small nutshell.

1. District Court Process-a. The family court office reviews the case/petition and a Judge is assigned to the case. b. Judge reviews and considers the case and schedules a "hearing". Hearings are handled differently depending on the birth family's situation, the judge's schedule, persons representing the birth family and those representing the adoptive family. The time involved in getting a hearing scheduled depends on the judge's calendar/schedule and that of everyone else required to attend. Hearings can result in--The immediate decision to finalize the adoption (though this is rarely the case) or - Result in the judge's request for more information (in one case we saw the judge request additional counseling for the birthmother and he scheduled a follow-up hearing. A(gain, this is rare).

**note - we have not gotten word that we've even accomplished this so far.


Most often, the hearing just provides a judge with more information about the case and allows him/her to rule on the adoption with confidence. Most often, the judge's decision (final ruling) happens weeks or even as long as months after the hearing. The responsibility of the District Court is to make sure that every issue related to the best interest of the child has been considered. Though lengthy and frustrating at times, the District Court process protects the child, the birth parent, the organization caring for the child, AND in the end protects us as adoptive parents. When the District Court decisions have been made, adoptive families can be confident that the process was handled with consideration and in the best interest ofthe child. 2-4 MONTHS

2. Part I of Final Decree(first decree). Once the District Court hearing has been completed and the judge has had time to make a decision to finalize the adoption, he/she issues the first part of the Final Decree. This is a short statement signed by the judge that is forwarded to the parties involved (social services organization on behalf of the adoptive family and the birth family) notifying everyone of his/her decision to finalize the adoption. This first part of the Final Decree must go to each party and there is a waiting period of 10 days before any more can happen to ensure that everyone has been notified of the judge's decision. 2-4 WEEKS.

3. Part II of Final Decree. Once the 10 day waiting period is up (and the court staff finds time!), the second part of the Final Decree is forwarded to all parties. When the second part of the decree is received by your child's social service organization, the court process is DONE!

4. Household registration change and immigration requirements. Before adoptive family travels, a lot must be accomplished by the child's social service organization. All court documents and background info on the child must be officially translated to English and submitted with certain paperwork to AIT. Also, the child must have his/her Visa medical exam which is forwarded directly (unopened) to AIT's immigrant visa office. At some point the child's guardian must file for a household registration change. The household registration is a file located at local government offices in Taiwan that contains certificates and information about each person in Taiwan. Your child's household registration is attached to his/her guardian's file until the adoption has been finalized by the Taiwan courts. Once the child has been legally adopted in Taiwan, the guardian files with the government office to remove the file from theirs and create a new file showing that the adoptive parent(s) are the new legal guardians'.The household registration change takes a day or two or a week depending on the placing organization and the local government office. 2-4 WEEKS.

5. New family receives a travel date. Each organization in Taiwan is different in when and how they schedule a travel date. Some wait until all of the above paperwork is filed and then give the family notice to travel quickly. Some schedule the travel in advance, while they work at preparing the above documents, giving a couple of weeks notice before travel.

Update? Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha...

up·date ˈʌpËŒdeɪt; n.
-dat·ed, -dat·ing,

-verb
to bring (a person, organization, etc.) up to date on a particular subject

–noun
an act or instance of updating:
information or data used in updating.

I got an "update" call today. There was such little to no information that I got from it that I thought it would be good to consult a dictionary to confirm I actually knew the definition.

OK - sarcasm aside...

Our paperwork is still being "processed". Not sure what that even means. Of course what I do know it means is that we're not getting any info anytime soon.
(deep breath)

I will now return you to the regularly scheduled attempt at finding perspective.

OK - here's some good news! Families who had received their referrals at the same time or after us are now getting word to travel. Of course my first reaction is to feel sorry for us -- considering that could be US if we didn't have this paperwork glitch. But I am very happy for the families who will soon meet their little ones. So head on over to Mel and Judy K to send your congrats!

Update? Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha...

up·date ˈʌpËŒdeɪt; n.
-dat·ed, -dat·ing,

-verb
to bring (a person, organization, etc.) up to date on a particular subject

–noun
an act or instance of updating:
information or data used in updating.

I got an "update" call today. There was such little to no information that I got from it that I thought it would be good to consult a dictionary to confirm I actually knew the definition.

OK - sarcasm aside...

Our paperwork is still being "processed". Not sure what that even means. Of course what I do know it means is that we're not getting any info anytime soon.
(deep breath)

I will now return you to the regularly scheduled attempt at finding perspective.

OK - here's some good news! Families who had received their referrals at the same time or after us are now getting word to travel. Of course my first reaction is to feel sorry for us -- considering that could be US if we didn't have this paperwork glitch. But I am very happy for the families who will soon meet their little ones. So head on over to Mel and Judy K to send your congrats!

Update? Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha...

up�date ??p?de?t; n.
-dat�ed, -dat�ing,

-verb
to bring (a person, organization, etc.) up to date on a particular subject

?noun
an act or instance of updating:
information or data used in updating.

I got an "update" call today. There was such little to no information that I got from it that I thought it would be good to consult a dictionary to confirm I actually knew the definition.

OK - sarcasm aside...

Our paperwork is still being "processed". Not sure what that even means. Of course what I do know it means is that we're not getting any info anytime soon.
(deep breath)

I will now return you to the regularly scheduled attempt at finding perspective.

OK - here's some good news! Families who had received their referrals at the same time or after us are now getting word to travel. Of course my first reaction is to feel sorry for us -- considering that could be US if we didn't have this paperwork glitch. But I am very happy for the families who will soon meet their little ones. So head on over to Mel and Judy K to send your congrats!

Monday, January 14, 2008

A Little Perspective

I'm done talking about the glitch in our case and ready to look forward. In fact, this week it's all about my bloggy friends. Marina and her boys finally got the referral of baby Sarah! Judy is bringing Eric home, Lori, Teresa, Megan and Wendy are going to get their kids finally and the kids who've come home already are doing so well - look at adorable Zane, and Sophia has just blossomed - there's so much positive happening, I choose to look at that instead of focusing on the negative.

Megan, Kimi's mom, was SO generous to offer to bring something over to Lucy for us. Well given that it's her first birthday in just a matter of days, we thought we'd send her a little gift to let her know we're with her in spirit and can't wait to spend years and years of birthdays with her.

Thank you, Megan! We can't wait to see those first photos of you with Kimi.

While I was kicking, screaming, and crying last week -- I glanced over at the boys playing and realized that, although it completely STINKS that Lucy is not here yet, I have an opportunity to enjoy the two kids who do live with us right now. I don't want to miss a second. Soon, things will be hectic with three and I need to enjoy the quiet before the storm. ;)

Somebody's really taking his big brother job very seriously lately. In fact, he has a doll that he puts to bed in Lucy's crib, telling her "I'll keep you warm, little baby" while he puts her head on the pillow. Lucy's going to be a very lucky girl with those two. It's especially funny when he tries to "help" when his little bro wants no part of it.

We also got a little "grownup" time this weekend and attended a party thrown by our friend Hungry Girl. (If you don't get her daily emails, you are so missing out.) Check out this pic of us with a chimp! I admit I was a bit freaked out by it (notice I am not touching it) but man was he cute... just like a toddler but without the whining and talking back.

A Little Perspective

I'm done talking about the glitch in our case and ready to look forward. In fact, this week it's all about my bloggy friends. Marina and her boys finally got the referral of baby Sarah! Judy is bringing Eric home, Lori, Teresa, Megan and Wendy are going to get their kids finally and the kids who've come home already are doing so well - look at adorable Zane, and Sophia has just blossomed - there's so much positive happening, I choose to look at that instead of focusing on the negative.

Megan, Kimi's mom, was SO generous to offer to bring something over to Lucy for us. Well given that it's her first birthday in just a matter of days, we thought we'd send her a little gift to let her know we're with her in spirit and can't wait to spend years and years of birthdays with her.

Thank you, Megan! We can't wait to see those first photos of you with Kimi.

While I was kicking, screaming, and crying last week -- I glanced over at the boys playing and realized that, although it completely STINKS that Lucy is not here yet, I have an opportunity to enjoy the two kids who do live with us right now. I don't want to miss a second. Soon, things will be hectic with three and I need to enjoy the quiet before the storm. ;)

Somebody's really taking his big brother job very seriously lately. In fact, he has a doll that he puts to bed in Lucy's crib, telling her "I'll keep you warm, little baby" while he puts her head on the pillow. Lucy's going to be a very lucky girl with those two. It's especially funny when he tries to "help" when his little bro wants no part of it.

We also got a little "grownup" time this weekend and attended a party thrown by our friend Hungry Girl. (If you don't get her daily emails, you are so missing out.) Check out this pic of us with a chimp! I admit I was a bit freaked out by it (notice I am not touching it) but man was he cute... just like a toddler but without the whining and talking back.

A Little Perspective

I'm done talking about the glitch in our case and ready to look forward. In fact, this week it's all about my bloggy friends. Marina and her boys finally got the referral of baby Sarah! Judy is bringing Eric home, Lori, Teresa, Megan and Wendy are going to get their kids finally and the kids who've come home already are doing so well - look at adorable Zane, and Sophia has just blossomed - there's so much positive happening, I choose to look at that instead of focusing on the negative.

Megan, Kimi's mom, was SO generous to offer to bring something over to Lucy for us. Well given that it's her first birthday in just a matter of days, we thought we'd send her a little gift to let her know we're with her in spirit and can't wait to spend years and years of birthdays with her.

Thank you, Megan! We can't wait to see those first photos of you with Kimi.

While I was kicking, screaming, and crying last week -- I glanced over at the boys playing and realized that, although it completely STINKS that Lucy is not here yet, I have an opportunity to enjoy the two kids who do live with us right now. I don't want to miss a second. Soon, things will be hectic with three and I need to enjoy the quiet before the storm. ;)

Somebody's really taking his big brother job very seriously lately. In fact, he has a doll that he puts to bed in Lucy's crib, telling her "I'll keep you warm, little baby" while he puts her head on the pillow. Lucy's going to be a very lucky girl with those two. It's especially funny when he tries to "help" when his little bro wants no part of it.

We also got a little "grownup" time this weekend and attended a party thrown by our friend Hungry Girl. (If you don't get her daily emails, you are so missing out.) Check out this pic of us with a chimp! I admit I was a bit freaked out by it (notice I am not touching it) but man was he cute... just like a toddler but without the whining and talking back.

Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Comic Relief

Just when you think life's not funny, your two-year-old makes you laugh out loud. My sleepy boy made his web debut today on Mom•Logic. Only he can figure out how to eat pizza and nap... at the same time.

Comic Relief

Just when you think life's not funny, your two-year-old makes you laugh out loud. My sleepy boy made his web debut today on Mom•Logic. Only he can figure out how to eat pizza and nap... at the same time.

Comic Relief

Just when you think life's not funny, your two-year-old makes you laugh out loud. My sleepy boy made his web debut today on Mom?Logic. Only he can figure out how to eat pizza and nap... at the same time.

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Huge Setback

With each step forward, it seems we take two back. We were informed yesterday that all the paperwork that was being requested has indeed been submitted and is officially in the court.

Great news, right?

Well, I also discovered that what I thought was the case actually is not. I was mistaken when I thought that the judge requested said paper. What really happened was that the nursery went to have the case logged in the court and the COURT asked for the paperwork before they could even start processing. So the actual scenario is that we were NOT logged in the court in early Nov but in late Dec or even early January. That sets us back two months further than we thought.

The best case scenario we can predict is picking Lucy up in April. Jeff and I are completely devastated - I can't believe I misunderstood the situation so badly. Our daughter should be home with us for her birthday... for her first steps... but instead we have to assume we'll hear nothing for at least six weeks.

Huge Setback

With each step forward, it seems we take two back. We were informed yesterday that all the paperwork that was being requested has indeed been submitted and is officially in the court.

Great news, right?

Well, I also discovered that what I thought was the case actually is not. I was mistaken when I thought that the judge requested said paper. What really happened was that the nursery went to have the case logged in the court and the COURT asked for the paperwork before they could even start processing. So the actual scenario is that we were NOT logged in the court in early Nov but in late Dec or even early January. That sets us back two months further than we thought.

The best case scenario we can predict is picking Lucy up in April. Jeff and I are completely devastated - I can't believe I misunderstood the situation so badly. Our daughter should be home with us for her birthday... for her first steps... but instead we have to assume we'll hear nothing for at least six weeks.

Huge Setback

With each step forward, it seems we take two back. We were informed yesterday that all the paperwork that was being requested has indeed been submitted and is officially in the court.

Great news, right?

Well, I also discovered that what I thought was the case actually is not. I was mistaken when I thought that the judge requested said paper. What really happened was that the nursery went to have the case logged in the court and the COURT asked for the paperwork before they could even start processing. So the actual scenario is that we were NOT logged in the court in early Nov but in late Dec or even early January. That sets us back two months further than we thought.

The best case scenario we can predict is picking Lucy up in April. Jeff and I are completely devastated - I can't believe I misunderstood the situation so badly. Our daughter should be home with us for her birthday... for her first steps... but instead we have to assume we'll hear nothing for at least six weeks.

Tuesday, January 1, 2008

11 Months Old!

Happy New Year everyone! In this house, not only is it a new year, new beginning... it's also marks one month and counting until our Lucy turns 1! We've kicked, screamed, cried and now just accept that we will not be with her for the milestone but hope to hear something soon and meet her not so long after she blows out that first candle. I have a feeling we'll be making it up to her when she arrives home.

In the meantime, we're waiting very (im)patiently and have almost finished her room. Notice the clothes on the dresser - I've started packing her stuff for when we pick her up! If you build it, she will come, right? The three frames over the dresser will be filled with black and white photos from our trip to Taiwan. We can't wait!





11 Months Old!

Happy New Year everyone! In this house, not only is it a new year, new beginning... it's also marks one month and counting until our Lucy turns 1! We've kicked, screamed, cried and now just accept that we will not be with her for the milestone but hope to hear something soon and meet her not so long after she blows out that first candle. I have a feeling we'll be making it up to her when she arrives home.

In the meantime, we're waiting very (im)patiently and have almost finished her room. Notice the clothes on the dresser - I've started packing her stuff for when we pick her up! If you build it, she will come, right? The three frames over the dresser will be filled with black and white photos from our trip to Taiwan. We can't wait!





11 Months Old!

Happy New Year everyone! In this house, not only is it a new year, new beginning... it's also marks one month and counting until our Lucy turns 1! We've kicked, screamed, cried and now just accept that we will not be with her for the milestone but hope to hear something soon and meet her not so long after she blows out that first candle. I have a feeling we'll be making it up to her when she arrives home.

In the meantime, we're waiting very (im)patiently and have almost finished her room. Notice the clothes on the dresser - I've started packing her stuff for when we pick her up! If you build it, she will come, right? The three frames over the dresser will be filled with black and white photos from our trip to Taiwan. We can't wait!